In the book I was loaned to help me walk through grief, I just read about those who are often forgotten about when someone passes away. It was brought to the front of my thought process this morning when I learned a friend passed away this morning after fighting cancer for six years. She is a couple of years younger than I am but we became closer friends in or younger adulthood. I wrapped my love around her when she lost her parents within six months of each other and in an instant she and her brother, both in their early twenties, were adult orphans in a blink of an eye. I hurt for both of them at the time. I now hurt again for this family. My friend leaves three beautiful children behind and a brother that is now the left alone.
My friend had two best friends. ... sisters really. They have now lost a sister. .. not just a friend.
This brought up a lot for me to ponder today. Think of all the people who are ignored when someone passes. The ex-wife/ex-husband, the ex in-laws, the ex step parent, the lover of a cheating spouse. These people are often so grief stricken and receive no understanding our support through their grief. Just because you don't like the title of the person doesn't mean your loved one that passed didn't love them and vice versa. I also thought to all those that are grieving for Jared. He had teachers, friends, ladies from the cafeteria, and a couple of young ladies that I believe truly were in love with him. I don't know if they ever told him that or if he ever told them but a special love nonetheless.
I think it is important to remember those people who are just as important in the lives of those who pass need grief support just as much as those who are biologically close to the deceased.
Rest in peace with no more pain my sweet and for goodness sake don't tell Jared everything we did in our younger years.
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